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Self-aware leaders balance empathy and accountability by noticing their reactions, pausing for perspective, and responding with clarity. This post outlines how to lead with both compassion and firmness—especially when performance is on the line.
Leadership Lessons in Balancing Empathy and Accountability Many leaders I coach enter their roles with a powerful, noble drive to create positive change. They envision empowering teams, streamlining processes, and driving exceptional results. Yet, in their zeal to improve performance, many fall into what I call the reformer’s trap. I see this pattern often. A
There’s a classic scene in The West Wing where Leo McGarry tells a story to a spiraling Josh Lyman. It’s about a man who falls into a pit. People pass by, offering advice and judgment from above. Then, a friend jumps in with him. The man says, “Now we’re both stuck.” The friend replies, “Yeah,
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Find what you need to lead with clarity, compassion, and confidence. You care about your team. You care about results. But some days, leadership just feels heavier than it should. Whether you’re holding back because you don’t want to hurt someone—or pushing hard and not getting the response you hoped for—this guide will help you
A leader I coach recently described a frustrating pattern. During a critical planning session, she saw her engineers and Scrum Masters repeatedly stepping in to cover missing work from product managers who were on planned leave… work that should have been completed in advance. While she was grateful for the stopgap effort, she recognized this
How to move your team from “who is to blame?” to “how do we fix it?” using restorative principles. Conflict is not just an HR issue; it is operational drag. When trust fractures in a high-performing team, information flow slows down, decision-making creates friction, and innovation stalls. Most managers default to one of two modes
Summary: When change moves faster than our team’s capacity to adapt, leaders need more than resilience—they need the skills of a Leader as Regulator. This post explores the predictable performance “Change Dip,” the observable data that shows your team is stuck in “The Labyrinth,” and provides a Leader’s Diagnostic Toolkit to restore performance by rebuilding
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Inspired by Dave Anderson’s article at Scarlet Ink. The Leadership Myth Whether we say it aloud or not, the intuitive wisdom about leadership (which clearly grew out of the machoism of the mid-twentieth century) is that tough leaders get ahead, but empathetic ones get ignored. It’s such old thinking that it feels instinctive: forceful personalities
